“What if a girl grew up like a boy, with marriage an abstract, someday thought, a thing to think about when she became an adult, a thing she could do, or not do depending?” (p. 4)
To my knowledge, there isn’t a large amount of literature on women who have chosen to remain unmarried. Thus, when I heard about Kate Bolick’s Spinster: Making A Life of One’s Own I knew for sure that I needed to read this book.
Throughout the book, Bolick weaves together her personal story with the histories of various women writers who she views as “spinsters”. These are all women are viewed as being “untraditional” for their time, each in their own unique way. It was absolutely fascinating learning about all these incredible women, and their struggles in addition to their achievements. In fact I found myself often putting down the book to look up these women and their works online and adding several books and stories on to my tbr pile.
If I were to be perfectly frank, I went into this book thinking that it would be a book that just celebrates being single and choosing to be single. However, it is so much more than that as Bolick proposes broadening the definition of the term, “spinster”. No longer should it refer to only the women who live alone and decide to be single (though maybe with a few cats to keep her company) for the rest of their lives. Alternatively, it should also include those who are unhappily coupled and can remember what it was like to be single and how it may even be better than being in a terrible relationship in addition to those who are happily coupled, as it can serve as a reminder to create time for themselves to be on their own.
Spinster is definitely a book that I would recommend for not just happily (or even unhappily) coupled people who are questioning – whether their single female friends are truly content being alone, but also for any young woman who is desires to build a life of their own and who is not one that is willing to settle for anything less.
Regardless of how this book came into my possession, the above review consists of my honest opinion of the book and my opinion only.